Nobody will ever be able to make you happy. The idea people have that one should be able to find the right partner in life is just self-degrading. There is only one person who can turn your life better and that person is you. Whether we find or we do not find the man/woman of our life is a question of choice that belongs to an even higher level of decision – the acceptance of reality and of our condition as human beings. And by that I do not mean to burry dialetics but just to afirm it.
We all know that one reach self-recognition by a struggle against the oposite but the oposite or the negative force is nothing but your own self. Why? ‘Cos the other is there to afirm your capabilities by denial so that in the end of the story you are the other as you’ve been supressed-sublimed-reflected and reset as the confirmation of your own self.
Therefore when I say that nobody can make you happy but yourself I’m trying to say that ‘in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make’. Or in very simple lines you can only ask for what you’ve been given.
But what did you give to the world? How did you show yourself to the world? In what terms did you expose your will? Was your will filled with significance or was it just empty? Pay attention to these questions because they will actually tell you a lot about how your relationships will fail and of how all your friends and lovers will turn their backs to you. I want you to understand that the fundamental thing about relationships is not about is giving yourself completly but it’s about how you externalize yourself and how you set yourself ready to struggle against the other (yourself) for recognition. Thus, to love is a challenge and I dare myself to real – embrace your reality and accept your freedom – sooner or later love will became an event that will afirm yourself as you are but remember, keep it up. Or once the game is over it won’t do any good to cry over split milk because the only one who can be blamed by your failures is YOU.
Escrito por J. 